According to 5LoveLanguages.com there are 5 different ways people show and receive their love. Look through these 5 languages and see which one is yours.
Words of Affirmation
Actions donâ€™t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, â€śI love you,â€ť are importantâ€”hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, â€śI love you,â€ť like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being thereâ€”with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standbyâ€”makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Donâ€™t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrousâ€”so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an â€śActs of Serviceâ€ť person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: â€śLet me do that for you.â€ť Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings donâ€™t matter.
This language isnâ€™t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or faceâ€”they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.