In March, I will celebrate 5 years with my husband (aka, the love of my life) and I have online dating to thank for it.
When I split up with my ex, the first thing I did was create an online dating profile (Yahoo Personals was my site of choice). Emma was two years old, I worked full time, I didn't want to meet someone in a club and I didn't want to date anyone that I worked with. My goal was not to meet the man of my dreams... the goal was to meet new people... have new experiences... date...and if I am being totally honest, rebuild my self esteem and get a little attention.
Well let me tell you that ON LINE DATING IS A BLAST!!! So here are a few tips to meeting a great guy, safely, while having a lot of fun.
-Be honest … If you are a little thick… say so. Don’t pretend to be something or someone that you aren’t cause you can’t pull it off for long!
-Have a great picture. Not one of you wasted or with your boobs hanging out… a little cleavage is fine but no more than that.
-So now you've got his interest… chat online, in real time so he can get a sense of your personality and you can do the same. Feel free to webcam (the good kind!) and send photos.
-Swap numbers if you feel that great about him. Talk to him on the phone, not just through messages. Get a feel for the kind of person he is in his day to day life.
-Don't come across as needy! Yes be excited about online dating and having men a finger click away, but do not pounce on every man that shows interest or is in your top ten matches that day.
-Profile wise, don't state you want 2.0 kids and marriage in the next 18 months… that scares most men and the ones that it doesn’t scare… have their own issues.
-Message wise, if he's taken a real interest in you, and emailed you about something you share in common along with a witty tale about a moment in his life, he's a keeper. On the other hand, 'babe, you look hot. I like chinese food too, msg me back. xxxx' is a sign of a man who is only out for one thing and it’s not your witty personality.
-Don't expect him to take down his profile after your date. It’s a hard ugly fact but he's probably dating other people and you should.
-Don’t stalk his profiles page… you will only make yourself crazy!
My final piece of advice… if you feel like you are trying really hard to find “Mr. Right”… take a few weeks off and try again later. Online dating should be fun and easy!!!!
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First of all, congrats on finding the love of your life and through an online dating service! As a guy that has been using various online dating services for a couple of years, I just wanted to sincerely thank you for your first point under your "Do's", especially since you are a woman and this blog is designed to offer advice for other women.
Over the last couple of years, I have been on 20+ first dates with women who described themselves as "a few extra pounds" or "curvy" yet when I met them, they were very overweight (50+ extra pounds) to obese (100+ extra pounds). I wish every woman would read and listen to what you have to say in this blog (all of it), cause it definitely would have saved me a lot of time and money.
Fortunately, I found the love of my life (through an online dating site) and hope to be engaged within the next few months. Best of luck to you and your husband and thanks again for the insight you've offered to others on the world of online dating!
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